stop comparing yourself to others

We fall into the trap of being what others feel we should be as opposed to who we are meant to be. Other’s dreams become ours. We adopt the world’s definition of success instead of understanding and pursing our own.

There is good news. No matter when you wake up to this reality, it is never too late to take a stand and travel down a fresh path, your path. To confidently begin the journey along your path, you must better know the traveller; you!

flick away negative thoughts that only bring you down.  These thoughts are not real—they come from our shadow side.  And nothing shrinks a shadow better than a beam of light.  Shine light on all that you are and all that you want. Remember always, you are the ultimate artist creating your life.

Know your Values.
These are your building blocks. What’s most important to you above all else? The zero compromise areas of who you are. Family, health, freedom, honesty, intimacy, playfulness, love, adventure, achievement. To name but a few.
Pick your top few. Prioritize them. What events and experiences allow you to feel them? This is your foundation. Your compass.

Know your Super Powers.
We all have core strengths. Some might even call them gifts. Is it public speaking, teaching, analysis, social interaction, influencing, positivity, discipline, problem solving? Most of us have a gut feeling of what these are.
What have past experiences shown? What have people consistently complimented you on? What’s your favourite type of project to put your heart into?

Know your Passion Moments.
We’ve all had them. A moment or time in your life when you felt invincible. It could come during a work project, caring for a child, exploring a new place or cooking a meal. Anything as long as you feel it at your core. You’ve likely had more than one.
Keep a list of these Passion Moments. And noticing this in others is just as important. What have you seen people around you do that inspire purpose? This list will never stop growing and with every addition, you gain more clarity on what lights a fire in your belly.
“Don’t be pushed by your problems; be led by your dreams

The intersection of your true values and super powers, backed with relentless passion, is where the magic happens. It’s where adventure ultimately begins 

With the right tools anything is possible. Your Values, Super Powers and Passion Moments are those tools. With them you can go though life with open eyes, able to notice even the hint of when your purpose is calling.
Expect these opportunities. Be waiting for them. When you know what you’re looking for, they’ll start to appear.
It may be in the form of a new friend, career, volunteer position or random adventure. If it lays at the heart of who you are, recognize this and do something about it. It’s up you to weave them into your story. You are no longer a spectator
Once you’ve found your path, the superficial destination the world defaults to becomes unimportant. Comparison disappears and all of a sudden it’s the travel itself that becomes meaningful. No longer are you trying to get somewhere. You’re there