Emotional Intelligence

“Peace cannot be kept by force. It can only be achieved by understanding.”  Albert Einstein

A cat doesn’t sit around worrying about the big, scary dog she might meet the next time she leaves the house. She has good instincts and uses them when necessary—and until then, it’s not on her radar.
Too often we sit around worrying tomorrow’s work or the consequences of the things we’ve said and done, as if we can somehow predict and control the future. All this distracts us from the here and now, preventing us from living this current, precious moment.
When these worries feel they could overpower you, go back to your breathe. All you need to do is take each moment as it comes.

There is a neurological ‘magic quarter second,’ during which it is possible for a thought to be ‘caught’ before it turns into an emotional reaction.” It’s so much easier to nip a feeling in the bud, before it really takes root and spreads throughout your system.

Emotional Intelligence: EI

Psychologist Daniel Goleman identified five elements to EI:  
self-awareness
self-regulation
motivation
empathy
social skills. 
This means you understand what’s going on in your head and heart; you don’t make hasty decisions on impulse; you can motivate yourself to delay gratification; you listen to, understand, and relate to other people well; and you’re able to focus on other people.

ask yourself whether or not you’re overreacting to the event or worrying to find a sense of control. And then you can accept that there is an alternative—you can choose to interpret the situation a different way, soothe yourself, and then feel something different. No one else causes our feelings. Only we can choose and change them.

Pain is part of life, and we can’t avoid it by resisting it. We can only minimize it by accepting it and dealing with it well.That means feeling the pain and knowing it will pass. No feeling lasts forever. It means sitting in the discomfort and waiting before acting. There will come a time when you feel healed and empowered

Our power comes from realizing we don’t need to act on pain that it’s human to hurt, and we need to let ourselves go through it.

Create your own emotional state
Do something because you love it don’t worry about where it’s leading.

challenge your perceptions and interpretations when your emotions could use some schooling, and learn to take responsibility for your joy, we can not only minimize pain—we can choose to be a source of pleasure, for ourselves and the people around us