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stop fear

The ego is fear-driven. It relishes in success, achievement, and status. It directs you to analyse the route that leads to all of these things.

Intuition is heart driven and does not equate status and success with happiness, but rather is the essence of happiness. The simple act of listening to intuition results in serenity.

why do we worry? Because we feel that if we are worrying, we are taking a positive action. We feel as if doing so can change the situation, when in reality it cannot.

Attend to the worry, learn what you can from it, appreciate it for doing its job and let it go

event  ---- meaning ----- emotion
dissolve the meaning you place in an event to free the emotion

Giving the Ego the Compassion and Love it needs to let go of Control

'Awareness is the space between thoughts'

I have been wondering why i have been pondering death during this early stage in my spiritual path.

I think it stems from a couple of places within my psyche.

After many days or possibly months of this constant returning to ponder death, a thought that came to me first of all was that of feeling abandoned.

Abandoned by my parents who died within 18 months of each other when i was 30 years old. I am not sure if i ever really grieved properly. even if i did let it all out I am still left with the feeling of being abandoned with so many things left unsaid and undone.

The fear of being left on my own of being abandoned stretches back to my early childhood memories, thinking my parents arguing was because i was not wanted, that they wanted another girl, that i was not good enough at school, feeling alone.

I understand  now that I was loved and that I was good enough and wanted, it was just my interpretation of events from a child's perspective. Although I understand this about me I still have a way to go before this false belief fades as acknowledge it with compassion, feel the pain of it and let it flow through and out of me

the second and later thought that came to me was that my ego is freaking out. After all this path of openness, acceptance, letting things be just as they are, and knowing that i am good enough just as I am. This path is a serous challenge to my ego. In fact it could be looking at this path i am on as the death of itself and it is doing all it can to stay in control by filling me with fears of the future and regret of the past.

My egoic self is not quite yet understanding that it is loved, that everything is OK, that it can have a rest from its years and years of trying to protect me. That it is PART of me and NOT me.

The me that is behind the thoughts and the egoic mind is gently beginning to be more present. To be able to observe the thoughts and actions of the ego and not be entranced by them.

It is painful at time, as all growth is. It is also joyful as all growth is. In order to heal, we must feel

The future is a song not yet sung. The past is a story that is done

Find peace

"... if you don't have peace, it isn't because someone took it from you; you gave it away. You cannot always control what happens to you, but you can control what happens in you." John Maxwell

acknowledge you don’t need anything outside of you to make you happy.

What we do not appreciate is that while we cannot control what is going on outside of us, the way we feel inside is our own responsibility. Depression is telling us there is something we have not yet learned—that we create our own reality—when we change our thoughts, we change the way we feel.

The best way to make friends with your mind is to know what your mind loves.

What the conceptual mind loves more than anything is having something to do. It loves being very active all the time.

In fact, if the conceptual mind doesn’t have something to keep it busy, then it can create a lot of trouble.

So in the beginning, you need to start by giving your conceptual mind a job—and that job is meditation.

Most people think of the mind as being thoughts and emotions, but these are actually just the appearance of the mind, not the true nature of the mind itself. We have these two main aspects of the mind:

—the appearance of mind,

—and the nature of mind.

We spend most of our lives lost in the appearance of mind, without any understanding of the nature of mind itself. We are always looking for our true selves outside of ourselves, in our thoughts and emotions.

So, we are constantly looking in the wrong direction—as if we were facing the west and looking for the sunrise. 

It is not the appearances themselves that are the problem—it is how the mind perceives them, grasps at them, and tries to solidify them as if they were real.

Therefore as in the Buddhist teachings, the main advice for this life is to purify our projections of the mind and realize the nature of mind.

Through the practice of meditation, we can tame our mind by becoming more and more familiar with the essence of mind.

When we conquer our own minds, we become master of our perceptions. When we transform our perceptions, then even appearances will begin to change.

Ultimately, through taming our mind, we can arrive at the profound purity of the nature of mind, that great peace which the Buddha spoke of at the moment of his enlightenment over 2,500 years ago in India, beneath the Bodhi tree in what is now known as Bodhgaya.

lettling go

feeling and emotions, rather than be denied or suppressed but when examined with compassion are gateways to inner peace through learning what it is they are telling us about ourself

When we stop trying to control our feelings, and start embracing the colorful way in which our hearts communicate with us, life begins to teach us our most important lessons.

What’s the opposite of self-limiting beliefs?
Unlimited possibility.
Why not identify with that instead?

Patient acceptance. You can’t force life to change. You create the conditions for change to come about. Then you accept that it will come when its time has ripened. Not before. 

release your stress

“Waking up to who you are requires letting go of who you imagine yourself to be.” ~Alan Watts

It is so easy to become lost in the belief that we are the waves on a stormy sea yet we are so much more, we are the deep ocean, the waves are just the surface.

Release your expectations about how you think life should go, and approach life from a place of exploration. This opens you up to experiencing things that are beyond your wildest dreams.

Comparing yourself to others, is very deep in our psyche. Like the fight, flight, freeze response it is probably rooted in our primitive limbic brain Another artefact from our ancestors, only this one is about status and hierarchy within the tribe, where status once played an important survival role as to whether you mate or are mated, how well you feed and how others in the tribe treat you.

Explore through life knowing deep down that you are always guided to exactly where you need to be.

When you focus on releasing the thoughts about how you imagined your life to be, your most loving, truthful self can come forward and guide you. There is nothing to figure out.

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-come-home-to-yourself/

Mindfulness Meditation

  “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

Mindfulness Meditation is a powerful tool for continuous brain development and there are real, measurable, physical changes that take place in the brain of those who meditate regularly.

Studies conducted by Harvard-affiliated researchers at Massachusetts General Hospital using magnet-imaging have shown that in as little as eight-weeks of practice people new to meditation can dramatically strengthen the brain structures associated with self-awareness, compassion, and introspection

Meditation builds your capacity to embody compassion and detachment.
First toward the reactive patterns of your own body/mind and then toward the rest of your world. It builds the neural networks, the emotional resilience, and the self-awareness that expands your choices and opens your possibilities.

There is a state of wisdom and love within you now. By turning the light of awareness within and opening your mind and body to that light, you can let go of reactive patterns naturally.

There is a state of wisdom and love within you now. By turning the light of awareness within and opening your mind and body to that light, you can let go of reactive patterns naturally.
Through meditation you build your capacity to witness, experience, and bless the patterns of reactivity that have been conditioned into your body/mind. You build your capacity to embody balanced being in the face of reactivity.
You can do this by taking three minutes to do the following:

1. Sit still with your eyes closed.
2. Be aware of your breath.
3. Bring to mind something beautiful, like a flower or a sunset.
4. As you breathe in imagine that you are breathing the beauty of that flower into your mind and body.
5. Feel the beauty spreading through your nervous system.

Kaizen starts with asking yourself a simple question: "What's the smallest change I can make to [insert basic goal here]"? The goal should be succinct and the question a simple one. Our subconscious brain then mulls over the question in the background as you go about your day, periodically coming back with creative, new answers as it processes the question. What's really interesting, is that because the question is a simple one, answering it is not stressful! It's actually fun coming up with creative Kaizen solutions to your problems, which encourages you to think of more and more.

Your mind would like you to believe that all of your thoughts are correct. One of the ways it does this is by having you think that you and it are one. The truth is your mind is just one part of you; it isn’t you.
Being able to separate your thoughts from your sense of self is one of the most useful things you can do. Try this: think of yourself as being made up of four parts.

1. Mind
2. Physical body
3. Heart
4. Spiritual aspect

This means: You. Are. Not Your. Mind. Your mind is just a tool for you to use.
All of your thoughts and perceptions are filtered through your unique belief system, and it’s this filter that causes negative thoughts. The negativity is in the filter. When you try to “heal” and “grow,” what you’re trying to do is change the filter; you’re trying to change your belief system. You are the bit underneath your thoughts.

find your purpose

“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” ~Louise L. Hay

 proverb: tension is not who I am. It’s not who you are either. Analyse life less and live it more

There is such a serious lack of unconditional love and acceptance in the world because so few of us have unconditional love and acceptance for ourselves.

know your values, and then, be in integrity with them. When you know what you stand for, and do what you believe in, your confidence and sense of self-worth will be sky-high, regardless of how much the situation sucks.

Your Values + Strengths + Passions + Service = Your Purpose
Don’t let all the different variables discourage you. Once you dedicate some time for introspection and reflection of those variables, you’ll rapidly start to realize the direction you need to move in.
Start by creating 3 lists:

• Your values
• Your strengths
• Your passions

The key is to figure out how you can combine your passions and strengths in service to a cause, person, community, or organization other than yourself. Do that and your values will fall into place.

stop worrying

“Don’t take life too seriously. You’ll never get out alive.” ~Elbert Hubbard

“Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose.” ~Eckhart Tolle

Next time you get hit by one of those negative and draining emotions like jealousy, fear, anger, worry, or greed that are nearly always status related, take a couple of deep diaphragmatic breaths, smile (because smiling sends a positive message to your brain that all is good) and ask yourself with a genuine sense of curiosity:
Is this really me, or is it just my brain up to its old tricks again.

when things get hard You don’t rise to the level of your expectations, you fall to the level of your training

Jump out of the air-plane

Each moment presents a new opportunity to be free, to be brave you have to practice being brave, to be free you have to practice letting go

there are no mistakes, only lessons. Whatever the outcome of your action, you will have certainly learned something.

Improve low self esteem

If you have low self-esteem, that means you need to go back to your values and reassess how you can rearrange your life to feel like you are living with integrity based on what matters to you.

Listen to the voices in your head which give you a litany of excuses why you can’t do something. Those voices don’t want change. They want to keep the status quo. Evict them

Stamping your feet and flailing your arms at unfairness doesn’t solve anything; slopping around in life’s negative emotions hurts nobody but yourself

peace of mind comes with daily practice and patience. We have to constantly remind ourselves to let go of the pain, hurt, failure, whatever it might be that is causing distress and cluttering our minds. Practice the art of peace daily and have patience with it

Don't try to live someone else's life, what you think you should do. Living up to your own full potential is giving yourself permission to be who you are and tapping into your  unique you.

“Love yourself—accept yourself—forgive yourself—and be good to yourself, because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things.” ~Leo F. Buscaglia 

Realize that doubts are fear, and fear is: Forgetting Everything’s All Right

Be comfortable being uncomfortable. Doubt is only a thought and feeling, nothing to resist

Do not fight, see anxiety as ways that your body is trying to get you to stop,  a message. a lesson to be learned



You need to hold it before it can be let go

Emotional Intelligence

“Peace cannot be kept by force. It can only be achieved by understanding.”  Albert Einstein

A cat doesn’t sit around worrying about the big, scary dog she might meet the next time she leaves the house. She has good instincts and uses them when necessary—and until then, it’s not on her radar.
Too often we sit around worrying tomorrow’s work or the consequences of the things we’ve said and done, as if we can somehow predict and control the future. All this distracts us from the here and now, preventing us from living this current, precious moment.
When these worries feel they could overpower you, go back to your breathe. All you need to do is take each moment as it comes.

There is a neurological ‘magic quarter second,’ during which it is possible for a thought to be ‘caught’ before it turns into an emotional reaction.” It’s so much easier to nip a feeling in the bud, before it really takes root and spreads throughout your system.

Emotional Intelligence: EI

Psychologist Daniel Goleman identified five elements to EI:  
self-awareness
self-regulation
motivation
empathy
social skills. 
This means you understand what’s going on in your head and heart; you don’t make hasty decisions on impulse; you can motivate yourself to delay gratification; you listen to, understand, and relate to other people well; and you’re able to focus on other people.

ask yourself whether or not you’re overreacting to the event or worrying to find a sense of control. And then you can accept that there is an alternative—you can choose to interpret the situation a different way, soothe yourself, and then feel something different. No one else causes our feelings. Only we can choose and change them.

Pain is part of life, and we can’t avoid it by resisting it. We can only minimize it by accepting it and dealing with it well.That means feeling the pain and knowing it will pass. No feeling lasts forever. It means sitting in the discomfort and waiting before acting. There will come a time when you feel healed and empowered

Our power comes from realizing we don’t need to act on pain that it’s human to hurt, and we need to let ourselves go through it.

Create your own emotional state
Do something because you love it don’t worry about where it’s leading.

challenge your perceptions and interpretations when your emotions could use some schooling, and learn to take responsibility for your joy, we can not only minimize pain—we can choose to be a source of pleasure, for ourselves and the people around us

Embrace Life

"Today you live each moment. You know nothing. So there is nothing to keep straight in your head. Since there's nothing you should know there is no possibility that you should have known better. You believe nothing, so everything is possible. You're not holding onto anything, so you're available for the 'anything' that CAN happen. 
You are present, open, and spontaneous, able to go with any twist or turn of life. 
Your mind is fresh and supremely creative because it is not limited by preconceptions. 
You are not worried, anxious or afraid since you hold no beliefs that there are situations you won't be able to handle, and your EXPERIENCE is that you have always been equal to life. 
You are at ease and comfortable because that is the natural state of your body, emotions, and mind, and you have no reason to be otherwise."
Zen teacher Cheri Huber

There seem to be 2 types of behaviour when you boil it down to its most base level. The victim and the victor.
The victor welcomes all that life is without judgement or fear or question, accepting the situation, whatever it may be. accepting the feelings, emotions and physical state. Understanding that life IS learning regardless of the situation.

The victim on the other hand lives in fear, ruled by the ego, which is continually comparing, judging, criticising, holding back and bringing down.

Society as a whole is based on cultivating the victim culture. without the victim lots of large corporations  would go out of business. Just think about how much, every day, everywhere you go you are being asked to compare, judge and criticise yourself. it is the basic ingredient of advertising. If you know you are already 'good enough then the reality and pressures imposed by 'society' can be seen for what they are and laughable really.

Fortunately the world is full of souls who strive to not be victims, and in this common modality there is much learning and teaching and joy and happiness.

Assigning blame and making excuses keeps us victimized. We don’t have to do anything different because it’s not about us; it’s about someone or something else. We’re simply the recipient.

We may in fact be the recipient of external forces outside our control, but we have the control over our reactions and responses in what we do and how we handle it.   
but beginning to look at ourselves and our responses might shake us up a bit. It means we might have to make a move, do something different, or try something new. That can be scary

Dont run from your reality, Embrace it.
Consider how you flee from your present moment

When you are stuck in your head instead of being in the present moment, your whole life becomes a long stream of obsessive thoughts about “your problems.”  You focus on what you don’t like about a situation, what you don’t like about your reactions to that situation—and here is the important part—to the exclusion of everything else.

See the present moment for what it really is: some thing you don’t like, but mostly lots of good things to be grateful about.

A healthy self-esteem equals happyness

A healthy self-esteem 

Trying to control the problem—your boss, your spouse, or your circumstances—will only keep you more attached to it and. The more you “leech” onto a problem, the more it “leeches” right back on you.
You will never be able to see the lesson or the solution if you dwell on all the little details about what seems wrong. Letting go could come in many forms: seeing the good in the person who seems difficult, accepting a situation for what it is, or seeing the other side of the story.
Any time we let go of our attachment to what went wrong or what should have happened we create the possibility of growth—and we pave the path for more positive results.

Your sense of self isn’t dependent on what other people think

THE GUEST HOUSE
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
 A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they're a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of furniture,
still, treat each guest honourably.
He may be clearing you out for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
-Jelaluddin Rimi (Sufi poet, 1207-1279)

Our natural human inclination is to operate on the ego's "auto pilot" aka victim mode, It's the ego's defence mechanism, especially when fear based feelings of rejection, loss, shame or guilt threaten it's make-believe world.   This absolves us of any direct responsibility and places it squarely outside of ourselves. Feelings aren't "right or wrong" - "good/bad".  It's the perception and judgements that we place upon them that deem them so.  Our ego is the loud, bratty, temper-tantrum throwing aspect of our nature that will always demand our attention.  It thrives on being stroked and stoked and wails and whines at any slight - real or perceived.
Acceptance through understanding which in turn brings peace when experiencing  life's painful situations when they inevitably show up. Some of life's greatest lessons come to us in this manner.  We're twisted and contradictory by "Divine Design".  Cultivate a Sense of Humor.   Of all the senses, it is probably the most invaluable sense that we can filter our perceptions through.

stop comparing yourself to others

We fall into the trap of being what others feel we should be as opposed to who we are meant to be. Other’s dreams become ours. We adopt the world’s definition of success instead of understanding and pursing our own.

There is good news. No matter when you wake up to this reality, it is never too late to take a stand and travel down a fresh path, your path. To confidently begin the journey along your path, you must better know the traveller; you!

flick away negative thoughts that only bring you down.  These thoughts are not real—they come from our shadow side.  And nothing shrinks a shadow better than a beam of light.  Shine light on all that you are and all that you want. Remember always, you are the ultimate artist creating your life.

Know your Values.
These are your building blocks. What’s most important to you above all else? The zero compromise areas of who you are. Family, health, freedom, honesty, intimacy, playfulness, love, adventure, achievement. To name but a few.
Pick your top few. Prioritize them. What events and experiences allow you to feel them? This is your foundation. Your compass.

Know your Super Powers.
We all have core strengths. Some might even call them gifts. Is it public speaking, teaching, analysis, social interaction, influencing, positivity, discipline, problem solving? Most of us have a gut feeling of what these are.
What have past experiences shown? What have people consistently complimented you on? What’s your favourite type of project to put your heart into?

Know your Passion Moments.
We’ve all had them. A moment or time in your life when you felt invincible. It could come during a work project, caring for a child, exploring a new place or cooking a meal. Anything as long as you feel it at your core. You’ve likely had more than one.
Keep a list of these Passion Moments. And noticing this in others is just as important. What have you seen people around you do that inspire purpose? This list will never stop growing and with every addition, you gain more clarity on what lights a fire in your belly.
“Don’t be pushed by your problems; be led by your dreams

The intersection of your true values and super powers, backed with relentless passion, is where the magic happens. It’s where adventure ultimately begins 

With the right tools anything is possible. Your Values, Super Powers and Passion Moments are those tools. With them you can go though life with open eyes, able to notice even the hint of when your purpose is calling.
Expect these opportunities. Be waiting for them. When you know what you’re looking for, they’ll start to appear.
It may be in the form of a new friend, career, volunteer position or random adventure. If it lays at the heart of who you are, recognize this and do something about it. It’s up you to weave them into your story. You are no longer a spectator
Once you’ve found your path, the superficial destination the world defaults to becomes unimportant. Comparison disappears and all of a sudden it’s the travel itself that becomes meaningful. No longer are you trying to get somewhere. You’re there

Be Mindful to be happy Anything you resist persists

 With any worthwhile journey, you will feel like giving up and throwing in the towel multiple times.
But it is during the times when you feel most frustrated that you are often on the verge of a breakthrough.

Our lives are very similar to the seasons. We go through cold, dark winters, and joyful, expanding summers. It all comes and goes. It’s the ebb and flow of life.

When you realize that the challenging times are there to help you grow, you will automatically feel more peaceful and relaxed.

When you realize that the challenging times are there to help you grow, you will automatically feel more peaceful and relaxed

Don't let goal become attachments. Attachment muddles our clarity. You’re likely pursuing your goals because you believe they will make you happy. Remember that when you start letting your goals pull you into a stressful state of mind. If you focus on the good things around you

Accept the moment for what it is. When you do this, you become the guardian of your inner space, which is the only way to feel good inside and find peace of mind, right now.

Surrender Control to be happy

Surrender 

"The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.” Albert Einstein

We try to control things because of what we think will happen if we don’t. In other words, control is rooted in fear.

Fear and presumption narrow your choices; they close you off to new possibilities and vitality. The more you indulge in these two emotions, the less chance you have of nourishing yourself

Beliefs are just thoughts that you keep thinking, which keeps them active in your mind. In order to change them, you must become aware of them and then shift them from the old belief to a new one, reinforcing it with lots of examples that show the new belief is true.

The key to overcoming fears: Do not fight them. Why? Because you can’t win. Don’t punish yourself either, thinking you’ll never rid yourself of fear. Instead, observe your fears. In the East, this exercise is known as “the witnessing presence.”

When you observe the conversations in your head, as well as the emotional reactions to those conversations, you put a little distance between you, the real you, and the you who is upset—the ego self.
This distance creates a space of peace or what Zen Buddhists call “the space of no mind.” As you make this your spiritual practice, this space will widen and your state of mind will increasingly relax. Your fears will disappear, too.

 

 

Become friends with the present moment and experience peace

“Your mind will answer most questions if you learn to relax and wait for the answer.” ~William S. Burroughs 

Become friends with the present moment and begin to experience peace


as long as you are identified and run by your mind, it will come up with “problems” for you to focus on.
Every single time a dilemma is solved, you can be sure of a new one arising that feels equally stressing as the previous one

there is a way to break free from this endless loop of stress. It starts by realizing how pointless and harmful this useless worry actually is. Once you become aware of the negativity that these thought patterns create, it will be much easier to let go of your “problems” once and for all

We don’t need to compare ourselves to others of the same age as we are. If we stopped comparing ourselves to others in our age group, there is no doubt we would be happier with being ourselves and more at peace with our present conditions.
Age is just numbers anyway. The eternal part of us is ageless, which means that it never gets old. Relate to that part of yourself, instead of giving numbers the power to affect your mood

You are much more than just your emotions. You are the awareness that is able to perceive them.
Emotions are another sense just like, taste, smell, sight, sound and touch. Use the data from the emotion to inform you, not rule you! you rule them!

Embrace your unique qualities and talents

Stop multitasking.

Although this may not seem to have anything to do with anxiety, it’s related. I used to do a lot of things at the same time: work, check my phone, answer an email, make small talk with somebody, and so on.
These interruptions made me lose track of where I was standing, and those times when you feel lost are a great place for anxiety to settle in.
Focus on one thing at a time, and you’ll naturally feel less anxious

See anxiety as an opportunity.

In retrospect, I see that anxiety was probably the best thing that ever happened to me. It was when I felt anxious that I knew that I had to make changes—with my approach to my work, my passions, and my mindset.
Anxiety goes away only when we learn what it’s teaching us. That is when we can move on.

The Certainty of Uncertainty

It’s both terrifying and exciting to have a blank page in front of you. Sometimes we need reminders to see it as the latter.

The only sense of certainty we can experience in life is the result of our own efforts. That’s actually an empowering thought if you think about it.

If we can accept that things will never be perfect—that we’ll gain, and lose, and grow, and regress, and smile, and cry, and learn, and forget—we’ll be better able to embrace the present moment. We are all ever-changing works in progress, and so are the lives we lead

No matter how much you’ve learned or how strong you’ve become, on any given day, you could allow your emotions to get the better of you. Applying knowledge never gets easy; it always takes strength, humility, and mindfulness to be truly present and to forge ahead despite your fear.

We are water. We evaporate, we freeze, we fall, we cool, we crash in waves, we ebb and flow, we soothe, swim and foam. A part of us looks the same to a mind that wants to condense and categorize, but in the end, we are constantly recreated anew. 

The Pathway to Self Love

 If you base your self worth on the external world, you’ll never be capable of self-love. 

We’re taught by society that our worth is found in the idols of our culture—technology, status, youth, sex, power, money, attractiveness, and romantic relationships.

Feelings of lack are never-ending. Every time a goal is reached or you possess the next big thing, your ego will move the line.

Your worth is in your true nature, a core of love and inner goodness. You are a beautiful light. You are love. We can bury our magnificence, but it’s impossible to destroy.

Stop fighting against yourself by thinking and desiring people and events in your life should be different. Your plan may be different from your soul’s intentions.

Be willing to surrender and grow. Life is a journey. We are here to learn and love on a deeper level.

Let go of urgency and fear. Relax and transform striving into thriving. Trust in yourself, do good work, and the Universe will reward you

All answers come from within. Look for signs and pay attention to your gut feelings. You’ll hear two inner voices when you need to make a decision. The quiet voice is your higher self; the loud voice is your ego. Always go with the quieter voice

Accept uncertainty. Suffering comes from living in the pain of the past or the fear of the future. Put your attention on the present moment and be at peace

Learn from your mistakes and go forward. Use this affirmation, “I forgive myself for judging myself for __________ (fill in the blank i.e.: for getting sick, for acting out, for not doing your best.)

Allow yourself to be seen, known, and heard. Get comfortable with intimacy in-to-me-see

Become aware of self neglect and rejection. Become conscious of your choices. Ask yourself several times throughout the day, “Does this choice honour me?”

Dedicate your life to loving you. Make it your main event.