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Saturday, 23 November 2013
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Wednesday, 6 November 2013
stop fear
The ego is fear-driven. It relishes in success, achievement, and
status. It directs you to analyse the route that leads to all of these
things.
Intuition is heart driven and does not equate status and success with happiness, but rather is the essence of happiness. The simple act of listening to intuition results in serenity.
why do we worry? Because we feel that if we are worrying, we are taking a positive action. We feel as if doing so can change the situation, when in reality it cannot.
Attend to the worry, learn what you can from it, appreciate it for doing its job and let it go
event ---- meaning ----- emotion
dissolve the meaning you place in an event to free the emotion
Intuition is heart driven and does not equate status and success with happiness, but rather is the essence of happiness. The simple act of listening to intuition results in serenity.
why do we worry? Because we feel that if we are worrying, we are taking a positive action. We feel as if doing so can change the situation, when in reality it cannot.
Attend to the worry, learn what you can from it, appreciate it for doing its job and let it go
event ---- meaning ----- emotion
dissolve the meaning you place in an event to free the emotion
Thursday, 31 October 2013
Giving the Ego the Compassion and Love it needs to let go of Control
'Awareness is the space between thoughts'
I have been wondering why i have been pondering death during this early stage in my spiritual path.
I think it stems from a couple of places within my psyche.
After many days or possibly months of this constant returning to ponder death, a thought that came to me first of all was that of feeling abandoned.
Abandoned by my parents who died within 18 months of each other when i was 30 years old. I am not sure if i ever really grieved properly. even if i did let it all out I am still left with the feeling of being abandoned with so many things left unsaid and undone.
The fear of being left on my own of being abandoned stretches back to my early childhood memories, thinking my parents arguing was because i was not wanted, that they wanted another girl, that i was not good enough at school, feeling alone.
I understand now that I was loved and that I was good enough and wanted, it was just my interpretation of events from a child's perspective. Although I understand this about me I still have a way to go before this false belief fades as acknowledge it with compassion, feel the pain of it and let it flow through and out of me
the second and later thought that came to me was that my ego is freaking out. After all this path of openness, acceptance, letting things be just as they are, and knowing that i am good enough just as I am. This path is a serous challenge to my ego. In fact it could be looking at this path i am on as the death of itself and it is doing all it can to stay in control by filling me with fears of the future and regret of the past.
My egoic self is not quite yet understanding that it is loved, that everything is OK, that it can have a rest from its years and years of trying to protect me. That it is PART of me and NOT me.
The me that is behind the thoughts and the egoic mind is gently beginning to be more present. To be able to observe the thoughts and actions of the ego and not be entranced by them.
It is painful at time, as all growth is. It is also joyful as all growth is. In order to heal, we must feel
The future is a song not yet sung. The past is a story that is done
I have been wondering why i have been pondering death during this early stage in my spiritual path.
I think it stems from a couple of places within my psyche.
After many days or possibly months of this constant returning to ponder death, a thought that came to me first of all was that of feeling abandoned.
Abandoned by my parents who died within 18 months of each other when i was 30 years old. I am not sure if i ever really grieved properly. even if i did let it all out I am still left with the feeling of being abandoned with so many things left unsaid and undone.
The fear of being left on my own of being abandoned stretches back to my early childhood memories, thinking my parents arguing was because i was not wanted, that they wanted another girl, that i was not good enough at school, feeling alone.
I understand now that I was loved and that I was good enough and wanted, it was just my interpretation of events from a child's perspective. Although I understand this about me I still have a way to go before this false belief fades as acknowledge it with compassion, feel the pain of it and let it flow through and out of me
the second and later thought that came to me was that my ego is freaking out. After all this path of openness, acceptance, letting things be just as they are, and knowing that i am good enough just as I am. This path is a serous challenge to my ego. In fact it could be looking at this path i am on as the death of itself and it is doing all it can to stay in control by filling me with fears of the future and regret of the past.
My egoic self is not quite yet understanding that it is loved, that everything is OK, that it can have a rest from its years and years of trying to protect me. That it is PART of me and NOT me.
The me that is behind the thoughts and the egoic mind is gently beginning to be more present. To be able to observe the thoughts and actions of the ego and not be entranced by them.
It is painful at time, as all growth is. It is also joyful as all growth is. In order to heal, we must feel
The future is a song not yet sung. The past is a story that is done
Sunday, 27 October 2013
Find peace
"... if you don't have peace, it isn't because someone took it from
you; you gave it away. You cannot always control what happens to you, but you can control what happens in you." John Maxwell
acknowledge you don’t need anything outside of you to make you happy.
What we do not appreciate is that while we cannot control what is going on outside of us, the way we feel inside is our own responsibility. Depression is telling us there is something we have not yet learned—that we create our own reality—when we change our thoughts, we change the way we feel.
The best way to make friends with your mind is to know what your mind loves.
Most people think of the mind as being thoughts and emotions, but these are actually just the appearance of the mind, not the true nature of the mind itself. We have these two main aspects of the mind:
We spend most of our lives lost in the
appearance of mind, without any understanding of the nature of mind
itself. We are always looking for our true selves outside of ourselves, in our thoughts and emotions.
acknowledge you don’t need anything outside of you to make you happy.
What we do not appreciate is that while we cannot control what is going on outside of us, the way we feel inside is our own responsibility. Depression is telling us there is something we have not yet learned—that we create our own reality—when we change our thoughts, we change the way we feel.
The best way to make friends with your mind is to know what your mind loves.
What the conceptual mind loves more than anything is having something to do. It loves being very active all the time.
In fact, if the conceptual mind doesn’t have something to keep it busy, then it can create a lot of trouble.
So in the beginning, you need to start by giving your conceptual mind a job—and that job is meditation.
Most people think of the mind as being thoughts and emotions, but these are actually just the appearance of the mind, not the true nature of the mind itself. We have these two main aspects of the mind:
—the appearance of mind,
—and the nature of mind.
So, we are constantly looking in the wrong
direction—as if we were facing the west and looking for the sunrise.
It is not the appearances themselves that
are the problem—it is how the mind perceives them, grasps at them, and
tries to solidify them as if they were real.
Therefore as in the Buddhist teachings, the
main advice for this life is to purify our projections of the mind and
realize the nature of mind.
Through the practice of meditation, we can tame our mind by becoming more and more familiar with the essence of mind.
When we conquer our own minds, we become
master of our perceptions. When we transform our perceptions, then even
appearances will begin to change.
Ultimately, through taming our mind, we can
arrive at the profound purity of the nature of mind, that great peace
which the Buddha spoke of at the moment of his enlightenment over 2,500
years ago in India, beneath the Bodhi tree in what is now known as
Bodhgaya.
Thursday, 24 October 2013
lettling go
feeling and emotions, rather than be denied or suppressed but when examined with compassion are gateways to inner peace through learning what it is they are telling us about ourself
When we stop trying to control our feelings, and start embracing the colorful way in which our hearts communicate with us, life begins to teach us our most important lessons.
What’s the opposite of self-limiting beliefs?
Unlimited possibility.
Why not identify with that instead?
Patient acceptance. You can’t force life to change. You create the conditions for change to come about. Then you accept that it will come when its time has ripened. Not before.
When we stop trying to control our feelings, and start embracing the colorful way in which our hearts communicate with us, life begins to teach us our most important lessons.
What’s the opposite of self-limiting beliefs?
Unlimited possibility.
Why not identify with that instead?
Patient acceptance. You can’t force life to change. You create the conditions for change to come about. Then you accept that it will come when its time has ripened. Not before.
Saturday, 19 October 2013
release your stress
“Waking up to who you are requires letting go of who you imagine yourself to be.” ~Alan Watts
Release your expectations about how you think life should go, and approach life from a place of exploration. This opens you up to experiencing things that are beyond your wildest dreams.
Comparing yourself to others, is very deep in our psyche. Like the fight, flight, freeze response it is probably rooted in our primitive limbic brain Another artefact from our ancestors, only this one is about status and hierarchy within the tribe, where status once played an important survival role as to whether you mate or are mated, how well you feed and how others in the tribe treat you.
Explore through life knowing deep down that you are always guided to exactly where you need to be.
When you focus on releasing the thoughts about how you imagined your life to be, your most loving, truthful self can come forward and guide you. There is nothing to figure out.
http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-come-home-to-yourself/
It
is so easy to become lost in the belief that we are the waves on a stormy sea
yet we are so much more, we are the deep ocean, the waves are just the surface.
Release your expectations about how you think life should go, and approach life from a place of exploration. This opens you up to experiencing things that are beyond your wildest dreams.
Comparing yourself to others, is very deep in our psyche. Like the fight, flight, freeze response it is probably rooted in our primitive limbic brain Another artefact from our ancestors, only this one is about status and hierarchy within the tribe, where status once played an important survival role as to whether you mate or are mated, how well you feed and how others in the tribe treat you.
Explore through life knowing deep down that you are always guided to exactly where you need to be.
When you focus on releasing the thoughts about how you imagined your life to be, your most loving, truthful self can come forward and guide you. There is nothing to figure out.
http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-come-home-to-yourself/
Mindfulness Meditation
“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb
a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”
Mindfulness Meditation is a powerful tool for continuous brain development and there are real, measurable, physical changes that take place in the brain of those who meditate regularly.
Studies conducted by Harvard-affiliated researchers at Massachusetts General Hospital using magnet-imaging have shown that in as little as eight-weeks of practice people new to meditation can dramatically strengthen the brain structures associated with self-awareness, compassion, and introspection
Meditation builds your capacity to embody compassion and detachment.
First toward the reactive patterns of your own body/mind and then toward the rest of your world. It builds the neural networks, the emotional resilience, and the self-awareness that expands your choices and opens your possibilities.
There is a state of wisdom and love within you now. By turning the light of awareness within and opening your mind and body to that light, you can let go of reactive patterns naturally.
There is a state of wisdom and love within you now. By turning the light of awareness within and opening your mind and body to that light, you can let go of reactive patterns naturally.
Through meditation you build your capacity to witness, experience, and bless the patterns of reactivity that have been conditioned into your body/mind. You build your capacity to embody balanced being in the face of reactivity.
You can do this by taking three minutes to do the following:
Your mind would like you to believe that all of your thoughts are correct. One of the ways it does this is by having you think that you and it are one. The truth is your mind is just one part of you; it isn’t you.
Being able to separate your thoughts from your sense of self is one of the most useful things you can do. Try this: think of yourself as being made up of four parts.
All of your thoughts and perceptions are filtered through your unique belief system, and it’s this filter that causes negative thoughts. The negativity is in the filter. When you try to “heal” and “grow,” what you’re trying to do is change the filter; you’re trying to change your belief system. You are the bit underneath your thoughts.
Mindfulness Meditation is a powerful tool for continuous brain development and there are real, measurable, physical changes that take place in the brain of those who meditate regularly.
Studies conducted by Harvard-affiliated researchers at Massachusetts General Hospital using magnet-imaging have shown that in as little as eight-weeks of practice people new to meditation can dramatically strengthen the brain structures associated with self-awareness, compassion, and introspection
Meditation builds your capacity to embody compassion and detachment.
First toward the reactive patterns of your own body/mind and then toward the rest of your world. It builds the neural networks, the emotional resilience, and the self-awareness that expands your choices and opens your possibilities.
There is a state of wisdom and love within you now. By turning the light of awareness within and opening your mind and body to that light, you can let go of reactive patterns naturally.
There is a state of wisdom and love within you now. By turning the light of awareness within and opening your mind and body to that light, you can let go of reactive patterns naturally.
Through meditation you build your capacity to witness, experience, and bless the patterns of reactivity that have been conditioned into your body/mind. You build your capacity to embody balanced being in the face of reactivity.
You can do this by taking three minutes to do the following:
- Sit still with your eyes closed.
- Be aware of your breath.
- Bring to mind something beautiful, like a flower or a sunset.
- As you breathe in imagine that you are breathing the beauty of that flower into your mind and body.
- Feel the beauty spreading through your nervous system.
Your mind would like you to believe that all of your thoughts are correct. One of the ways it does this is by having you think that you and it are one. The truth is your mind is just one part of you; it isn’t you.
Being able to separate your thoughts from your sense of self is one of the most useful things you can do. Try this: think of yourself as being made up of four parts.
- Mind
- Physical body
- Heart
- Spiritual aspect
All of your thoughts and perceptions are filtered through your unique belief system, and it’s this filter that causes negative thoughts. The negativity is in the filter. When you try to “heal” and “grow,” what you’re trying to do is change the filter; you’re trying to change your belief system. You are the bit underneath your thoughts.
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