Surrender Control to be happy

Surrender 

"The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.” Albert Einstein

We try to control things because of what we think will happen if we don’t. In other words, control is rooted in fear.

Fear and presumption narrow your choices; they close you off to new possibilities and vitality. The more you indulge in these two emotions, the less chance you have of nourishing yourself

Beliefs are just thoughts that you keep thinking, which keeps them active in your mind. In order to change them, you must become aware of them and then shift them from the old belief to a new one, reinforcing it with lots of examples that show the new belief is true.

The key to overcoming fears: Do not fight them. Why? Because you can’t win. Don’t punish yourself either, thinking you’ll never rid yourself of fear. Instead, observe your fears. In the East, this exercise is known as “the witnessing presence.”

When you observe the conversations in your head, as well as the emotional reactions to those conversations, you put a little distance between you, the real you, and the you who is upset—the ego self.
This distance creates a space of peace or what Zen Buddhists call “the space of no mind.” As you make this your spiritual practice, this space will widen and your state of mind will increasingly relax. Your fears will disappear, too.